We all suck at something until we don’t. The first time we try something new, we suck at it. Okay so maybe suck is not the right word. But should that stop you from continuing to try it? No, of course not. The only way you’ll get better, is to continue to try improving how you go about it. That’s easier said than done of course. I know for me, one of my biggest fears is failing. The fear of failure (also called “atychiphobia”) is when we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to achieve our goals.
In some cases, the fear of failure can be so powerful and preventative that we actually end up not moving forward. Maybe even going backwards. So how do we conquer the fear of failure? Well, there are many things out there but here’s what I’ve found to help me:
- Set Goals – Write your goal down on a piece of paper and place it where you can see it every single day.
- The more you see it, the more likely you’ll believe it. If you believe it then you can and will achieve it.
- Focus on what I’ll learn from it – The chances are the first time you attempt to go after your goal, that you’ll fail at it. But that’s okay, as long as you learn something from it.
- Throughout history, the greatest achievements came from failing. Thomas Edison failed over a 1000 times at creating the light bulb. But all it took was getting it right, ONE TIME, then history was made.
- “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” – Samuel Beckett
- Find 3 positives from the situation – It’s human nature to find the negative in the situation. That’s why many of us stop pursuing our goals. By finding at least 3 positives, you can grow and truly learn from it. Thomas Edison was asked what it felt like to fail a 1000 times. His response was simply, “I didn’t fail a 1000 times. The light bulb was an invention with a 1000 steps.”
- That statement speaks volumes to how Edison’s mind worked. He found the positives that helped him to keep moving forward.
- If we remove the negatives then we can and will find a way to achieve our goals.
None of this means anything if you’re not taking action toward what you want to accomplish. I’ve said a lot of things so far in my life but until I started taking action they were just words. And quite frankly, most of it is just words and dreams. The things I have accomplished i.e. running track at a Division I program and completing a Half Iron-man just to name a couple, were because I sat down with a goal and focused on what I wanted to accomplish.
In the beginning of both of those goals, I kept getting hurt, partly because I was approaching training in the wrong way. But I learned from each set back to then come back stronger and stronger where eventually both goals were met.
Make a commitment today to take action. And be prepared to suck at it, at first, then as you learn and keep moving forward, you can have success after success. Believe it and you can achieve it!
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.” – Confucius
Written by: Tim Kane